9 secrets you are allowed to keep from your woman\

9 secrets you are allowed to keep from your woman

My dad was married to my mom for 53 years and they had a loving relationship until he passed in 2015. It was while on his sick bed in his last few weeks that he shared some things with me.  And one of them was him telling me directly that even if I love my wife with my life, it’s not absolutely everything that I should reveal to her. Some things can be kept secret. I must say, it’s one of the best advice that he ever gave me

Is Better to keep certain things to yourself no matter the edge you have to tell a woman you are dating

the first is

1. THE NUMBER OF PEOPLE YOU HAVE DATED:

   Sometimes we are tempted to boast about the number of women that we have slept with as men.   But one should resist the edge. Think about this, what would revealing your number of people you have slept with impact your current relationship. If the number of women, you have slept with is higher she might think you are a womanizer and a player. And if the number of women you have slept with is lower than hers, she might get paranoid.  She would think you would ditch her if you find out hers.

2. HOW GREAT YOUR EX WAS

   Your ex is your ex for a reason. Comparing your ex to your current is a thief of joy. You would never be able to fully know how your current ex is if you are constantly comparing your ex to your current lover. Think about this if you and your ex were so great together why are you still not together. Let go and move on. If she ask about your ex don’t tell her how good your sex was and how much your family loved her.

3. FAMILY ISSUES

   There is no family without issues but sometimes some family problems are so overwhelming that we would want to discuss it with our significant other. Besides this would do us no good especially at the beginning of a relationship. Sometimes talking to your partner about your family problem would subject your family to judgement and sometimes ridicule. This is no way to saying one should sometimes not talk to their partner about some issues but be sure she is truly the one

4. YOUR FINANCES:

   Telling her how much you make in a relationship inevitantly leads to one of these outcomes it may affect her true feelings for you if she is a gold digger as she would pretend to love you more to get hold of your money. And if your income is lower than hers, she might begin to look down on you thereby losing your respect. And if your income is more than hers, she might begin to see you as an extra source of income and if she is not getting, she would think you are stingy or wicked.

5. THINK HER BEST FRIEND IS HOT

   You can’t help who you are attracted to, but it would be wise if you don’t tell your girl that her friend is hot. It could make her lose confidence in herself leading to low self-esteem. It would lead to bad feeling between you and her. And also, between her and her best friend. Make your woman feel confident and irreplaceable.

6. YOUR WEAKNESSES:

   Some people talk about their weaknesses to seek for sympathy. Some think about it as a humble or noble thing to do but this is never true. Revealing deep secrets about yourself might let her think if you are not good enough for her.

   

7. NEGATIVE SELF -DEPRECATING THOUGHTS

   Sometimes we all need someone to help us pull through our worst moments. As  man your should always fight the urge to let her know you are insecure around her male friends.She might believe her friends have something you dont have or you are afraid you are not good enough.

8. YOU HATE SOMEONE IN HER FAMILY OR FRIEND GROUP

   : It would be better if you smile and keep it to yourself especially when the person is very close to her. Conveniently have something doing if she want to meet up with that person. But find a way to deal with why you hate that person.

9. YOUR LIFE GOALS

   Keeping your goal to yourself makes you strive for the reward. You would be more excited about her seeing the outcome.IN CONCLUION ONE SHOULD BE CAREFUL THE DETAILS ONE SHARES WITH OTHERS. KEEP CASUALCONVERSATIONS TO YOURSELF AND INTIMATE CONVERSATIONS TO PEOPLE WHO HAVE PROVEN TO BE TRUSTWORTHY OVER THE YEARS